Let’s get personal!

Hello hello my loves… I’m back! Well, let’s dive right in. On this post I want to get up close and personal… in short, I’ll tell you about myself and what Bella is all about. It was about time, I think!

Though she be but little, she’s fierce! That describes me best. Born in Nairobi, raised up in Migori and Kisumu I have an amazing, infectious smile and a banging body…confidence my people, afterall charity begins at home… hahaha.

I’m 5’4 ft tall, weigh 49kgs, clothes size XS/S and wear shoes size 37, (Just to give you a clear picture of my physic. Oh! and my birthday is coming up soon so in case you wanna buy me gifts in form of shoes and clothes you’re sorted. Hahaha).

My friends and family call me Bella, but on all important documents I’m Christabel Achieng Odhiambo… should change it to Munaretto as that’s my husband’s name but the process is too long #rolls eyes. Too much paper work in Germany! Phew.

I’m 25 years old, atleast for the next two months… haha, old age is slowly catching up with me. But if you think I’m still 20… I don’t mind, haha. But seriously where has time flown? I still feel 23! Is someone living my life on my behalf? Or, are the years getting shorter and shorter? Touchè!

I’m married and May 5th was our first wedding anniversary #cute face. I live in Braunschweig, Germany with my husband and have no kids yet. Maybe in the near future, who knows?

I have a bachelors Degree in Communication and Media Technology and currently learning German with an aim of joining the University for my masters degree in the same field in the next few months… God willing. I love everything Public Relations and Communications and that’s the career path I’m on. Very exciting!

I’m a third child in a family of eight kids. Well, my beloved father took God’s request to multiply and fill the world literally and seriously…hahahah, sorry daddy, pun intended!

(My dad and I, 2016)

I’m a fashion lover, music junkie and a bar/restaurant/club sampler. I enjoy travelling and seeing new places. I enjoy nature but not too much. I prefer travelling and exploring fashion stores than castles… oups! Oh and I really love fancy things without spending a fortune on them so I’m a SALE lover… yeah, I’m that girl!

I could publish an encyclopydia about myself but to sum it up and not bore you my reader, I love social media, attention, my family and friends. I’m very talkative but you’d have to interact with me more than once to confirm or experience this.

I’m very picky with food, a poor eater (since childhood), for this reason I tend to cook a lot as I enjoy my cooking best…Witty, caring, loving and too generous also describe me. I tend to be very opinionionated and always have a stand regardless of the situation. Having a stand makes life easier from my perspective.

Chillies are small but they’re hot! That’s Bella when she’s mad. Ofcourse being human means we all have flaws. I’ll leave it at that.

Thank you for taking your time to read my posts. Should you have any questions or comments, feel free to post them right away in the comment section. Lots of love!

Zitat: Dynamites come in small packages.

A letter to little Bella.

Darling Bella,

With overwhelming love I write this letter, hoping it finds you happy, innocent, healthy and naive. I’m typing this in the comfort of my flat; which I share with my husband. I have so much to tell you concerning dating, love and marriage life, but that’s a story for another day! Or better still, that’s for you to experience when you’re much older and kind of wise. #wink.

For now, kindly lend me a few minutes off your busy schedule and read this to the last word. You probably have homework to finish or dishes to wash, but before you lay your tiny self to bed, please read this. Feel free to share it with your friends as they may learn something from it too.

You are BOLD and beautiful; a force to reckon with. Your intelligence is extraordinary. Never doubt that; even for a second. Just like the Sun you shine bright and powerful. Your rays can harm and heal… Blissfully Pure.

You are a gem; very rare to find and not for everyone. Gracefully poised. Your husky voice doesn’t need shouting to be heard. When you speak; mountains bow, birds hush and rivers stop. Your smile is not too wide, it’s perfect and that broken tooth (you’ll get it fixed in a few years), doesn’t make it any less beautiful. So, smile and bless mankind with it.

Your voice is your power, your body your tower and your mind is your anchor! Your positive energy and attitude towards every situation are your shields. Fight for what you want; your dreams. Speak and make them listen! Never let go of what’s rightfully yours and work hard to leave a mark wherever you go.

Stop second guessing yourself. Take those risks and learn from the experiences. Go hard or go home because where you come from… nothing comes on a silver platter and to get where you wanna go you must work twice as hard. Form that dance group, model for fun, take photos and write those articles…build on these talents and be open to explore. Talk to that girl you look up to; trust me she’s your best friend waiting to happen.

Put your best foot forward at all times, regardless. Don’t let anyone bring you down or dull your sparkle; even that Math teacher, because life is not all about figures and graphs! And you’re not a looser (a math looser maybe, haha). Remember not everything that can be counted counts and not everything that counts can be counted. Even with that said, you must take your education seriously because Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world -Nelson Mandela.

4-Year-old Bella

The world owes you nothing but its yours to concur. Be who you want to be and never apologize for that. Choose your battles wisely and carefully listen to your heart.

Family comes first always. Remember, blood is thicker than water and your parents love and care so much for you even though they may not say it out loud as often as you’d want to hear it. Men and friends will come and go but family is constant.

Don’t be shy. Wear whatever you like, whatever makes you comfortable. It’s not your job to be likable, its your job to be yourself -Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.

There’s only one version of Bella in a world inhabited by millions of people, and that’s your power, use it! Make yourself proud and live according to your own terms.

Xoxo,
Big Bella.

My good luck charm

I’m on a mission! A mission to find a good luck charm…Yes, and I’m serious about it!.

What’s a good luck charm? Well, anything that brings good luck your way! Could be a button, a ring, a necklace, a coin etc. In some cases even a person!  In their song “Eminado”, which means good luck charm, Nigeria’s Tiwa Savage and sings Don Jazi’s good luck charm.

Lately lady luck hasn’t been coming my way and that has really got me thinking… hard! I’m in several Facebook groups where people constantly suggest ‘Novena’ prayers for luck and solutions and I’m yet to try that out. Though, after a discussion in class last week about good luck charms, I was intrigued, hence on this mission.

The only challenge is the fact that I’m such a fickle person! In respect to clothes, shoes and jewellery, I’m not a creature of habit. Maybe… just maybe, I need several good luck charms. haha

As kids we played with lady birds and I can vaguely remember believing they brought good luck. I’ve been told that the rainbow is a sign of good luck too. Some people use padlocks, others believe that the ‘four-leaf-Clover’ too, is a sign of good luck. Well, people… led by myself are really full of  superstitions. Like Marilyn Manson said, “But what’s real, you just pick the lie you like the best”

 

Come to think of it… I know a few people who have good luck charms. For instance my paternal grandmother never parts with her rosary, same to my mum (we’re a Catholic family)… My mama constantly reminds me to have 3 rosaries; one for the car, one for my handbag and one in the house. Truth is, I have none, lol.

Right now I could really use some luck. Should I be successful in my quest, I’ll wear my good luck charm like a badge of honor.

Do you have or believe in good luck charms… or luck at all for that matter? If yes, does it work? If no, why not?

Feel free to indulge me in the comment section! Looking forward to reading all your insights on good luck charms!

Zitat: You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step –Martin Luther                   King.

Conflict of Interests (Needs and Wants)

Happy new year my lovelies. Have I been missing in action for long? Well, I was still adjusting to a couple of things… January blues!
A quick recap of events; Christmas was great and so was new years. For new years eve, I went out dancing, yeeeey! and I think I looked super good. Plus all the fireworks was just breathtaking.

Back to reality now. School resumed and is ending soon anyway. So back to early mornings. The job hunt is still on; at least I got one response from the tens of applications I had sent and still sending.  My plants are very healthy, I still enjoying cooking and love fashion. I’m still me!26073112_929345630573699_8250432635730395136_n

Ever wondered if you’re in the right place in your life? Do you sometimes question why nothing seems to work out your way? From jobs, school, relationships e.t.c. Good news! you’re not alone!

For a while now, I’ve been having trouble deciding what I want to do with my life after language school. I have options like enrolling for a masters degree, getting a job or  continueing with language school till C1 level. Truth is I need one, more than the other two. Education sounds good but it’s more complicated than I’d anticipated, because I’ll have to study in German.  Then it hits me that difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations. 🙂
News flash; I’m not 20 years old anymore. My needs are definitely more important than my wants. I need a job…  Reality check!

I’m not here to tell you what to do. I’ll just share my opinion which is solely from my experience.
I classify these situations into two categories; needs
Needs and Wants
∗Needs – Something you must havefor you to survive, i.e Shelter, food, basic healthcare and clothing.
∗Wants – Something you would like to have, i.e a big car, big house, expensive vacations etc.

I believe that more often than not, life gives us what we need and not what we want. And that’s totally OKAY! Ever wondered why there are only countable billionaires in a world inhibited by billions of people? It’s simple… we all can’t be billionaires. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t work hard or we’re less smart, it simply means everyone isn’t born for the same purpose. Even our fingers are not the equal.

 

I stand corrected; but I believe life is meant to be lived, not survived. It’s totally okay to treat yourself to some wants along the way, but only when you can afford it, and enjoy these wants as the extras they are. Be grateful for what you have and work hard for what you want.

Value what you have.
⇒Many a times we overlook what we have and we may even feel deprived of the things we want because we are not able to afford them. take your time and look around you. You’re most likely to see how lucky and blessed you are with the needs that you already have. Don’t waste too much time counting the stars lest you lose the moon.

⇒Take time and reflect on all the ways you’re blessed. Then, decide whats really important to you and go after it. Many people talk about wanting to do this or that, but they never actually try to make it happen. Take the challenge and make things happen. Walk the talk!21980383_134910290576914_8140896933729271808_n

Don’t follow social media trends blindly.
Half the things you see on social media are fake. This hurts but it’s the truth. Don’t believe everything you see people posting on social media platforms or let it intimidate you into going out of your way trying to keep up, because you may end up hurting yourself. Such silly competition will lead you nowhere. Avoid tricking yourself into feeling deprived when you aren’t.  Stay true to your cause all the way and have your own definition of success. Don’t get broke trying to look rich.

Have a realistic budget plan.
Come up with a realistic plan and act on it. You can only budget with the money you earn or have at hand. Above all, remember to save, save and save, for a rainy day is on it’s way.save

Look out for sales.
The word “SALE” is the love of my life! haha. I refer to my style as “Champagne taste on a beer budget“. In short, I have expensive taste but I shop cheap! I always know when there’s a sale in any store in Braunschweig … yes! Many people mistake me for a spendthrift, but truth is, I only shop during sales so I spend way less on like five items than I  would on one, on a normal day.
So looking out for sales is a good way to spend less and save more.IMG_20171022_185724_297

A relationship is a
want
I consider it so because you don’t need relationships to survive. Sure love makes everything beautiful but it’s not worth your time or breath if it’s not reciprocated. I’m no love counselor or relationship adviser, but I believe that you should never get too atached to anyone unless they feel the same towards you. Because one sided expectetions can mentally destroy you.

Lastly, the topic of Needs and wants is so broad and I could only write about it from my perspective and understanding. My parting shot is simple; if dogs are entitled to treats, who are we not to have treats? After-all, no one is leaving alive…right? Have fun as you figure out your needs and wants. Prost!

Zitat: Needs are imposed by nature. wants are sold by society – Mokokoma Mokhonoana.